Gender Pronouns
WHAT ARE GENDER PRONOUNS?
In English, gender pronouns are gender identifiers for the third-person singular. In the past, gender pronouns were separated into masculine (he/him/his) and feminine (she/her/hers). This separation of masculine and feminine is called gender binary and only recognizes men and women. Many people identify outside of the gender binary. Gender-neutral pronouns such as they/them or xe/xer/xers allow individuals to use pronouns they feel fit with their identities.
These actions help make our workplace more inclusive of transgender, gender nonconforming, and gender non-binary people. Using appropriate pronouns is a first step toward respecting people’s gender identity and creating a more welcoming space for people of all genders. Whatever approach we take to address pronouns, the bottom line is that everyone deserves to have their self-ascribed name and pronouns respected in the workplace.
WHAT ARE SOME COMMONLY USED PRONOUNS?
- she/her/hers
- he/him/his
- they/them/theirs
- ze/hir/hirs
- Just my name, please!
This is not an exhaustive list of all pronouns, which do evolve. If you ask someone’s pronoun and you have not heard it previously, it is not insulting to ask for the spelling and different conjugations. Just let the person know you are asking to make sure their pronouns are respected.
WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO RESPECT GENDER PRONOUNS?
Properly using an individual’s correct pronoun is an easy way to show respect. In an instance where a pronoun is not indicated or unknown, gender-neutral pronouns provide a useful option. Whether intentional or not, using the wrong pronouns can be hurtful, angering, and even distracting. Some might find it equivalent to being told they do not matter or deserve respect. Invalidating someone’s identity puts a strain on how a person moves about in society and how that individual interacts with others. Pronouns are a matter of self-determination. We can’t assume someone’s gender identity based on appearances. Many people may be learning about gender pronouns for the first time. We are proud to facilitate awareness about these important issues.
HOW DO YOU ASK SOMEONE ABOUT THEIR GENDER PRONOUN?
As part of an introduction, you can say “Tell us your name, your role, and if you’re comfortable, your gender pronoun.” You might hear gender-neutral pronouns like “they, them, theirs” – or some people prefer that you simply use their name. In a one-on-one conversation, the best way to ask is with a straightforward: “What are your gender pronouns?” or “Can you remind me of which pronouns you like for yourself?”